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Stuck

Posted on: July 24, 2011

“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering.  Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.”  Thich Nhat Hanh

Stuck.  Deep in the mud – not moving forward and not moving backward – standing still.  How often have you felt stuck in your life?  It’s easy to get in a rut these days.  Modern life constantly bombards us with an endless stream of information from a multitude of sources.  Without realizing it, we are going through life on autopilot mindlessly living the same routine day in and day out.  Sensing something doesn’t feel right and we’re drowning, we still fail to come up for air to explore the messages sent by our intuitions.  Unknowingly, an undercurrent of sadness or complacency has surreptitiously crept into our lives and taken root. 

The Internet, e-mail, texting, social networking, 24X7 newscasts, reality TV provide fodder for the distractions that rob us of our time.  Instead of pausing and exploring our own lives, we’ve become voyeurs craving the details of celebrities’, friends’ and acquaintances’ lives.  Feeling that every text message or e-mail has to be instantly responded to creates underlying stress in our lives.  We robotically go through each day until we suddenly realize that the days have turned into years.  Time stands still for no one.

Our daily lives are functional, but we feel unfulfilled.  We wonder where the joy went, and how we lost track of the dreams we had for our lives.  We don’t remember why we incorporated certain behaviors or circumstances into our routines.  Sometimes it seems easier to carry on existing in discontentment than to ponder what has transpired in our lives.  Instead of choosing to be around certain people or situations, we do it because it’s become a habit or others expect it.  We’ve become so disconnected from our innate natures that we’re not even aware of the negative affects of our choices.  We can instantly justify why we brush our teeth every day, but what about other behaviors that have been incorporated into our lives?  Is there something that you do that no longer provides the intended benefit and is just taking up your time and causing you anxiety? 

A moment of awareness can result in two vastly different outcomes.  We can use it to assess how we are living our lives and provide the impetus to move forward.  Or it can heighten our fears.  If in that moment of awareness we allow negative thoughts to overwhelm us, a state of panic ensues.  Instead of sitting with the uncomfortable feelings and letting them pass, we thrash against them like a trapped animal.  In our haste to resolve our discomfort, we go back to the familiarity of our mundane routines and habitual behaviors.  It’s important to realize that focusing on your breath to calm you and subdue the negative voices in your head while you sit with feelings of discomfort enables them to pass.  Calmness and a clear mind permit a fresh start and a new, positive attitude that will help propel you forward. 

Invest time in reflecting on what truly brings joy to your life and explore how you can incorporate more of it into your days.  If you’re struggling with some aspect of your life, take a deep breath to calm yourself before you go into panic mode.    Really explore why you have arrived at this place in your life and what you can learn from it.  Take solace in the fact that you do not have to change if you are not ready to.  Just being aware of the struggle is a small first step in moving forward.  If you do choose to move forward, do it at a speed that feels right for you.  It could be as simple as dancing to a song every day or as complex as going back to school to further your education.  If the undertaking seems overwhelming, start small.  If you’re unsure that a new interest truly is a passion, try volunteering.  Start out with a simple step with no strings attached to the outcome other than incorporating more joy into your life.  It’s good to try new things, and it’s okay to chalk them up to learning experiences and let go of them when they no longer serve you.  

It doesn’t matter how well you eat, how much you exercise, or how hard you work if there is no joy in your life.  Many people take huge leaps when they decide to become healthy.  They start intensely exercising and swear off all foods they perceive as bad.  They may be successful for a short-period of time, but find that they have also brought on some unanticipated misery.  By taking small steps, new behaviors gently and easily take root.  No step is too small, and each successful step propels you forward.  You will begin to feel like you are floating gently downstream instead of fighting against the current. 

I invite you to consider any aspects of your life that have become routine and may be detracting from your happiness.  Take time to breathe and investigate any feelings of discomfort that arise.  Instead of resisting the uneasiness, trust that it will pass if you allow it to surface.  Awareness and acceptance will bring you a sense of peace and calmness that will give you the confidence to move forward.  Taking small steps that you are comfortable with and bring you joy will move you forward in the direction of your dreams.  In addition, I invite you to sign up for e-mail updates at www.belightandhealthy.com to get informed and inspired to Be Light and Healthy.  When you sign up, you will receive an e-mail requesting you confirm your subscription.  After you confirm, you will begin receiving updates.

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